People are sooo much more 'receptive' of you after you've lost 'the weight'

**skelooth** · 09-09-2005, 01:16 AM

I would like to take a moment and share with you what's been going on with me in school, and how people have responded to me.

Fall '04 semester, I was only 2-3 months in to my journey and was walking in on the first day of class at 263lbs and 44" waist pants.

The response: Made one female acquaintance who was fat and ugly. Made a few male friends because I'm a funny bastard. Overall that semester I really didn't meet too many new people and would end up being alone at any type of school function or in the cafeteria.

Spring '05 semester, the gears were churning, I had just got back from winter vacation and was feeling good. I walked in through those doors in the lower to mid 230lbs with a waist size of between 38 and 40" pants.

The response: Made many male and female acquaintances. Many times in the cafeteria I found myself talking to people. At one point I made an actual female friend who approached ME and, I do believe she wants me both then and now. (I like her as a friend though). I started getting comments from my male peers about being being and starting to look in shape. The hot girls for the most part still payed me no mind unless I had them cornered. (You are apparently invisible to attractive women when you are overweight).

Fall '05 semester (current), I've gotten to a point where the progress has been significant and I look shapely in clothes. This time I walked through those school doors at 196lbs wearing a medium sized t-shirt and 34" waist shorts.

The Response: Even though I'm only a few days in to the semester, let me tell you, there is a world of difference. Literally. People are VERY receptive of me. School has become a place of socialization. A 'hot young thing' in one of my classes started a conversation with ME and I almost fell out of my chair. (Doesn't she realize I used to be invisible?). Girls (and actual pretty ones) are AMAZINGLY very open to socializing with me now. Even if it's not for dating, it's the point that I am no longer invisible. I've been meeting girls left and right and I'm only 4 days in to the semester. It does not stop with girls though, because everyone is suddenly receptive to being my friend. When there needs to be a group in class, I'm suddenly a top pick by a lot of people to group with. I'm not hyping myself up, because the school grind is still "the school grind", but if you compare this response to the one I got in fall '04.... you might see why I'd be more than just a little bit pleased.

Of course, if anyone else has similar stories/experiences to share, I'd LOVE to hear them.

rusty319 · 09-09-2005, 11:47 AM

I had a very similar experience. I'm a typical endomorph, with some meso qualities, thankfully. At my all time worst I was at 395 lbs, with a 58" waist at 6 feet tall. I managed through trial and error and a lot of weight loss and gains to get down to 210 lbs with a 34" waist. At this point I was a little too light, in my opinion, because I had basically lost all my weight by starving myself (no more than 1200 calories per day and lots of cardio).

I, too, was invisible to women while I was heavy. Once I got below the 40" waist barrier though I noticed women were more interested in me. When I got to 36" I had women coming on to me, even very good looking ones. It was a blast having all this attention when before they wouldn't even talk to me. But to be fair, I think overweight women have the same experience. I know of a few women that I wouldn't have been interested in, then they lose their excess weight and you think "wow, where did she come from all of a sudden". We're a very visually oriented society.

Unfortunately I wasn't able to maintain the 210 lbs or the 34" waist. I let myself go until I hit 280 lbs again. I'm now down to 260 lbs and I'm aiming for 225 to 235 as I feel best at that weight, at leat I used to. Now that I'm older I may not be able to carry as much muscle mass and may have to go lower. My real goal is to get below 40" in the waist agin no matter what the weight is.

chlaxman · 09-09-2005, 01:23 PM

My weight loss was very quickly and happened when I was younger actually. I lost a lot of weight between the summer of my sophomore and junior year of high school. As with most overweight kids at that age, I had confidence problems and everything. So I walked into school junior year without having any real friends and suddenly people wanted to be around me and hang out with me. I was not invisible before, because of sports, but now I was someone that people wanted to hang around with, tlak to in class, and eat lunch with.

Senior year of high school got even crazier because I was sitting around 6% bf the entire time and playing lax. I had a serious gf (xc runner) and all these people were really trying to be my friend who wouldn't really talk to me before. It's a weird feeling and I was uncomfortable with it in general. I had never heard someone tell me "You're hot" or anything like that.

**skelooth** · 09-09-2005, 02:28 PM

rusty, that is AWESOME you were able to lose the weight like you did! I'm sorry to hear you put it back on... a lot of us do that, including myself. When I was 17 I had hit my high of 295lbs and by 19 I had gotten down to 195lbs. But then I discovered girls and let myself go while in relationships. NEVER again.

MsDominatus · 09-09-2005, 03:35 PM

I've found this as well, only I being the stubborn girl that I am, refuse to fall victim to it. As a matter of fact, it disturbs me greatly. I get irritated because before, people would often only pay attention to me if A) I had the perfect outfit on (to hide my flawa) and a good amount of make up or B) occasionally when had my son w/me and they felt bad.. and my this I mean.. would hold open doors for me, etc. Now, I could have no make up on, and looking like a plain Jane and doors are held for me just about EVERY day.. or I get checked out, flirted with etc. while it feels nice, it also makes me question humanity. Like we only extend curious gestures to people that we find aethetcially pleasing... I make an effort to treat every one the same now, because of this. And always say please and thank you to even the hardest people to look at.

The last thing I ever want to do is become shallow. I felt this happening when I first started to see results - I mean, I felt good and realized it WAS possible to transform my body and let it get to my head, and started to really judge other people. I'd think "my god, she needs a treadmill", or "man, he shouldn't be eating THAT if he looks like THAT". I have to remember that everyone hits their breaking point and everyone has different expectations of their lives and bodies that don't necessarily agree with mine. In an effort to combat the judgemental - I, myself try to not judge. Again, just my stubborness and bitterness from before I lost the lbs - shining through!

But thats SUPER good, Skel, it feels good doesn't it? I will admit, the attention from men (even though I do have a BF) is a very good indicator of where i'm at physically. I"ve always known I had a pretty face under there somewhere, the fat and the bad attitude was just masking it...

**EME** · 09-09-2005, 03:44 PM

That's awesome SKE...

Good for you. You have worked hard and you deserve the changes that are coming in your life.

I think a lot of it probably has to do with the different "aura" you give off now.

When you feel good about yourself, it shows to everyone around you.
I'm sure you were always the same person on the inside, but the new confidence you have about your appearance is no doubt apparent to the people around you now.

Obviously, our culture treats overweight, or unnactractive people differently than others. There have been many tests demonstrating this.

But, I have no doubt that the changes you have made, have not only changed your appearance, but also the way you interact with others.

When you feel good about yourself, other people notice and want to be around you.

Good Job Patrick!

- EME

HAYWOOD JABLOME · 09-09-2005, 06:59 PM

Skel, that's a really interesting experience. Especially coming first hand.

You probably have a lot more self confidence now and that recipricates from others too. Not to dismiss the incidents of when the hotties approached you though. Must feel good.

Nice job! :rock:

KingOfChaos · 09-09-2005, 07:03 PM

Ha...awesome ^_^ Could also be that you're more open and charismatic now that your confidence has increased.

**skelooth** · 09-10-2005, 12:32 PM

i'd have to say i've always been fairly charismatic, even when seriously overweight

MsDominatus.... good for you for not being shallow. I've become extremely critical of overweight people.... I think working in a bakery has something to do with it.

Ihateeveryone · 09-17-2005, 09:00 AM

I used to make quite a few friends because I'm supposedly a funny prick, but I never really hung out with anyone aside from my friends at the gym when I was bulked (this is 106kg at 5'10). Then last year, I ripped right up to 80kg, and chicks at work started to tell me how awesome I looked, and chicks from school started to tell me I was looking heaps better. Once, after thanking one for her complement (yeah, sometimes I have manners too

) I said I felt I needed to gain another 2 or 3kg. She goes, "No! Don't get bulky, girls hate that! Stay slim!" Then she explains that I looked better without the muscle mass, regardless of what bodyfat I was carrying. That same day, I recommenced bulking. ***** being skinny for chicks, when you can be huge and intimidating :bigthumbu

HatesFat · 09-20-2005, 03:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MsDominatus

I've found this as well, only I being the stubborn girl that I am, refuse to fall victim to it. As a matter of fact, it disturbs me greatly. I get irritated because before, people would often only pay attention to me if A) I had the perfect outfit on (to hide my flawa) and a good amount of make up or B) occasionally when had my son w/me and they felt bad.. and my this I mean.. would hold open doors for me, etc. Now, I could have no make up on, and looking like a plain Jane and doors are held for me just about EVERY day.. or I get checked out, flirted with etc. while it feels nice, it also makes me question humanity. Like we only extend curious gestures to people that we find aethetcially pleasing... I make an effort to treat every one the same now, because of this. And always say please and thank you to even the hardest people to look at.

The last thing I ever want to do is become shallow. I felt this happening when I first started to see results - I mean, I felt good and realized it WAS possible to transform my body and let it get to my head, and started to really judge other people. I'd think "my god, she needs a treadmill", or "man, he shouldn't be eating THAT if he looks like THAT". I have to remember that everyone hits their breaking point and everyone has different expectations of their lives and bodies that don't necessarily agree with mine. In an effort to combat the judgemental - I, myself try to not judge. Again, just my stubborness and bitterness from before I lost the lbs - shining through!

But thats SUPER good, Skel, it feels good doesn't it? I will admit, the attention from men (even though I do have a BF) is a very good indicator of where i'm at physically. I"ve always known I had a pretty face under there somewhere, the fat and the bad attitude was just masking it...

Great post, some of the same stuff has been going through my mind... i've lost (veeeeeeeery sloooooowly) around 50lbs over the last 5 years, I am myself faaaaar from perfect, but I found myself judging those who seemed less 'perfect' than me. Even people whom I envy, I try to bring them down in my mind by pointing out all their fitness flaws.

Worst part is that I still have a good 20lbs of fat to go (6'0 172lbs right now) with wierd fat distribution so I certainly don't look good, and it certainly is a bit of a mind**** when I think that way about others.

I think it comes from being shallow myself, I constantly see imperfection in others which makes me feel bad, and then see imperfection in myself and hate it (as the name implies), which makes me feel even worse. Don't know if it makes sense.. It's messed up.

**skelooth** · 09-21-2005, 04:16 AM

A girl actually called me over by saying "Hey handsome!" today.

Can I just say,"Total Frockering shock". That's the first time in my life I've ever recieved that sort of attention from a girl who was not 300lbs. Doesn't she know i'm supposed to be invisible?

**schroeder** · 09-21-2005, 05:01 AM

i'd ahve to say it works in the other end of the spectrum also. back in the day i was 6-0' 140...ti just seemed like i wasn't noticed/respected half as much as i am now that i weigh 200. granted, 6-0' 200 is not huge by any means....but compared to your average college guy it's fairly impressive to be that size while staying under 15% bf. i'd assume that half of it is a confidence thing...but i'm definitely getting looks from women who wouldn't have noticed me a few years ago.

great work man. it's a total lifestyle change....you feel like a totally different person. it seems like life just opens new doors for you.

Vinter · 09-26-2005, 02:50 PM

I know the situation.. when I wasn't fat... I would go out with some friends and go home with 2-3 phone numbers a night, as I gradually gained weight over the past two years, I noticed it going away little by little, getting ignored by the same people who used to be all about being around me, was kinda weird to me at first, but it let me know who's ya friend and who isnt, you know?

Anyways, it took a girl insulting me (the one time an insult has actually bothered me) to get me to change, and I've been working on it for the past month, its rough, but I'm showing progress so I'm happy.. I can't wait to get in better shape then I was before, so when those people come back around, I can give them the cold shoulder back!

**skelooth** · 09-26-2005, 05:48 PM

isn't social reality sad and upsetting? In a way it makes me angry, but in other ways I know that it's mostly on a subconcious level. No one likes "The fat one".

I do it myself. In every college class there is "The fat one".

Vinter · 09-26-2005, 07:04 PM

It is sad and upsetting, but I cant say I'm not guilty of being the person in shape and fit, popular and not caring of the overweight 'loser', I was one of those guys.. I played sports all my life, was always in good shape, I was the 'alternative/freak' jock/athlete.. because I was in shape, was a funny guy, I got into the crowd of assholes, and became one... I'm glad I got fat, even though it sucks, it gave me a different perspective on things, though I cant understand how people take the verbal abuse time and time again and don't do anything about it at some point.. I knew I was letting myself go, and I kept letting it happen (depression, lazyness..etc..etc) but I hit a boiling point when someone threw words at me that I might have said a few years ago, and it made me realize things needed to change.... maybe people just deal with insults better then me o-O

**skelooth** · 09-26-2005, 07:09 PM

since we're on the subject... the girl who sat behind me in math class today is really REALLY fat, and she sounded like she was breathing ALL the air in the room. I wanted to move my desk cos it was annoying to hear her gasp up air like a dieing hippo for an hour straight...

09-09-2005, 01:16 AM	#1
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	People are sooo much more 'receptive' of you after you've lost 'the weight' I would like to take a moment and share with you what's been going on with me in school, and how people have responded to me. Fall '04 semester, I was only 2-3 months in to my journey and was walking in on the first day of class at 263lbs and 44" waist pants. The response: Made one female acquaintance who was fat and ugly. Made a few male friends because I'm a funny bastard. Overall that semester I really didn't meet too many new people and would end up being alone at any type of school function or in the cafeteria. Spring '05 semester, the gears were churning, I had just got back from winter vacation and was feeling good. I walked in through those doors in the lower to mid 230lbs with a waist size of between 38 and 40" pants. The response: Made many male and female acquaintances. Many times in the cafeteria I found myself talking to people. At one point I made an actual female friend who approached ME and, I do believe she wants me both then and now. (I like her as a friend though). I started getting comments from my male peers about being being and starting to look in shape. The hot girls for the most part still payed me no mind unless I had them cornered. (You are apparently invisible to attractive women when you are overweight). Fall '05 semester (current), I've gotten to a point where the progress has been significant and I look shapely in clothes. This time I walked through those school doors at 196lbs wearing a medium sized t-shirt and 34" waist shorts. The Response: Even though I'm only a few days in to the semester, let me tell you, there is a world of difference. Literally. People are VERY receptive of me. School has become a place of socialization. A 'hot young thing' in one of my classes started a conversation with ME and I almost fell out of my chair. (Doesn't she realize I used to be invisible?). Girls (and actual pretty ones) are AMAZINGLY very open to socializing with me now. Even if it's not for dating, it's the point that I am no longer invisible. I've been meeting girls left and right and I'm only 4 days in to the semester. It does not stop with girls though, because everyone is suddenly receptive to being my friend. When there needs to be a group in class, I'm suddenly a top pick by a lot of people to group with. I'm not hyping myself up, because the school grind is still "the school grind", but if you compare this response to the one I got in fall '04.... you might see why I'd be more than just a little bit pleased. Of course, if anyone else has similar stories/experiences to share, I'd LOVE to hear them. __________________ R I P

09-09-2005, 01:23 PM	#3
chlaxman Pro Stature Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Maine baby Posts: 560 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 9	My weight loss was very quickly and happened when I was younger actually. I lost a lot of weight between the summer of my sophomore and junior year of high school. As with most overweight kids at that age, I had confidence problems and everything. So I walked into school junior year without having any real friends and suddenly people wanted to be around me and hang out with me. I was not invisible before, because of sports, but now I was someone that people wanted to hang around with, tlak to in class, and eat lunch with. Senior year of high school got even crazier because I was sitting around 6% bf the entire time and playing lax. I had a serious gf (xc runner) and all these people were really trying to be my friend who wouldn't really talk to me before. It's a weird feeling and I was uncomfortable with it in general. I had never heard someone tell me "You're hot" or anything like that. __________________ Tempora mutantur, et nos mutamur in illis. :weight_li :dumbells: :bed2: :friday:

09-09-2005, 02:28 PM	#4
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	rusty, that is AWESOME you were able to lose the weight like you did! I'm sorry to hear you put it back on... a lot of us do that, including myself. When I was 17 I had hit my high of 295lbs and by 19 I had gotten down to 195lbs. But then I discovered girls and let myself go while in relationships. NEVER again. __________________ R I P

09-09-2005, 03:44 PM	#6
EME Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 3,265 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 51	That's awesome SKE... Good for you. You have worked hard and you deserve the changes that are coming in your life. I think a lot of it probably has to do with the different "aura" you give off now. When you feel good about yourself, it shows to everyone around you. I'm sure you were always the same person on the inside, but the new confidence you have about your appearance is no doubt apparent to the people around you now. Obviously, our culture treats overweight, or unnactractive people differently than others. There have been many tests demonstrating this. But, I have no doubt that the changes you have made, have not only changed your appearance, but also the way you interact with others. When you feel good about yourself, other people notice and want to be around you. Good Job Patrick! - EME __________________ PhysiqueFXonline - Online Nutrition and Training with Michael and Kendra Elias: www.MichaelandKendra.com Team Molecular Nutrition Creative Director FAME Media Group / World Natural Sports Organization Editor-In-Chief FAME Magazine www.FAMEWorldTour.com

09-09-2005, 06:59 PM	#7
HAYWOOD JABLOME Pro Stature Join Date: May 2005 Location: Calgary Posts: 343 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 93	Skel, that's a really interesting experience. Especially coming first hand. You probably have a lot more self confidence now and that recipricates from others too. Not to dismiss the incidents of when the hotties approached you though. Must feel good. Nice job! :rock: __________________ Homer: [drunk] "Look, the thing about my family is there's five of us. Marge, Bart, Girl Bart, the one who doesn't talk, and the fat guy. How I loathe him."

09-09-2005, 11:47 AM	#2
rusty319 Pro Stature Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Cleveland, OH Posts: 130 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	I had a very similar experience. I'm a typical endomorph, with some meso qualities, thankfully. At my all time worst I was at 395 lbs, with a 58" waist at 6 feet tall. I managed through trial and error and a lot of weight loss and gains to get down to 210 lbs with a 34" waist. At this point I was a little too light, in my opinion, because I had basically lost all my weight by starving myself (no more than 1200 calories per day and lots of cardio). I, too, was invisible to women while I was heavy. Once I got below the 40" waist barrier though I noticed women were more interested in me. When I got to 36" I had women coming on to me, even very good looking ones. It was a blast having all this attention when before they wouldn't even talk to me. But to be fair, I think overweight women have the same experience. I know of a few women that I wouldn't have been interested in, then they lose their excess weight and you think "wow, where did she come from all of a sudden". We're a very visually oriented society. Unfortunately I wasn't able to maintain the 210 lbs or the 34" waist. I let myself go until I hit 280 lbs again. I'm now down to 260 lbs and I'm aiming for 225 to 235 as I feel best at that weight, at leat I used to. Now that I'm older I may not be able to carry as much muscle mass and may have to go lower. My real goal is to get below 40" in the waist agin no matter what the weight is.

09-09-2005, 03:35 PM	#5
MsDominatus New Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Minnesota Posts: 16 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 0	I've found this as well, only I being the stubborn girl that I am, refuse to fall victim to it. As a matter of fact, it disturbs me greatly. I get irritated because before, people would often only pay attention to me if A) I had the perfect outfit on (to hide my flawa) and a good amount of make up or B) occasionally when had my son w/me and they felt bad.. and my this I mean.. would hold open doors for me, etc. Now, I could have no make up on, and looking like a plain Jane and doors are held for me just about EVERY day.. or I get checked out, flirted with etc. while it feels nice, it also makes me question humanity. Like we only extend curious gestures to people that we find aethetcially pleasing... I make an effort to treat every one the same now, because of this. And always say please and thank you to even the hardest people to look at. The last thing I ever want to do is become shallow. I felt this happening when I first started to see results - I mean, I felt good and realized it WAS possible to transform my body and let it get to my head, and started to really judge other people. I'd think "my god, she needs a treadmill", or "man, he shouldn't be eating THAT if he looks like THAT". I have to remember that everyone hits their breaking point and everyone has different expectations of their lives and bodies that don't necessarily agree with mine. In an effort to combat the judgemental - I, myself try to not judge. Again, just my stubborness and bitterness from before I lost the lbs - shining through! But thats SUPER good, Skel, it feels good doesn't it? I will admit, the attention from men (even though I do have a BF) is a very good indicator of where i'm at physically. I"ve always known I had a pretty face under there somewhere, the fat and the bad attitude was just masking it...

09-09-2005, 07:03 PM	#8
KingOfChaos Pro Stature Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Temple, TX Posts: 156 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 7	Ha...awesome ^_^ Could also be that you're more open and charismatic now that your confidence has increased. __________________ Shawn Muder Bodybuilding Enthusiast Fire Controlman, United States Navy Starting Weight: 520 lbs. BF - 62% (3/24/04) Current Weight: 315 lbs. BF - 22% (03/09/08) MySpace: http://www.myspace.com/darkspeaker Livejournal: http://www.livejournal.com/~kingoflaw/ Realms of Evil, My D&D website: http://www.realmsofevil.net/

09-10-2005, 12:32 PM	#9
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	i'd have to say i've always been fairly charismatic, even when seriously overweight MsDominatus.... good for you for not being shallow. I've become extremely critical of overweight people.... I think working in a bakery has something to do with it. __________________ R I P

09-17-2005, 09:00 AM	#10
Ihateeveryone Pro Stature Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: The Castle of Blakkheim Posts: 752 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 11	I used to make quite a few friends because I'm supposedly a funny prick, but I never really hung out with anyone aside from my friends at the gym when I was bulked (this is 106kg at 5'10). Then last year, I ripped right up to 80kg, and chicks at work started to tell me how awesome I looked, and chicks from school started to tell me I was looking heaps better. Once, after thanking one for her complement (yeah, sometimes I have manners too ) I said I felt I needed to gain another 2 or 3kg. She goes, "No! Don't get bulky, girls hate that! Stay slim!" Then she explains that I looked better without the muscle mass, regardless of what bodyfat I was carrying. That same day, I recommenced bulking. *** being skinny for chicks, when you can be huge and intimidating :bigthumbu __________________ Bullshit things: Hippies Astrology Rap music Nu metal Leg presses Communism Nitric Oxide Left wing politics Decaf coffee Fortune cookies Cutting Prudes Wine coolers Non materialism Fk marijuana - legalise steroids!! Bart: Ohhh, this place smells, and somethings dripping on me! Willie: The smell's manure, and the drippin's manure!

09-21-2005, 04:16 AM	#12
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	A girl actually called me over by saying "Hey handsome!" today. Can I just say,"Total Frockering shock". That's the first time in my life I've ever recieved that sort of attention from a girl who was not 300lbs. Doesn't she know i'm supposed to be invisible? __________________ R I P

09-21-2005, 05:01 AM	#13
schroeder Der Leutnant Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: tacoma, wa Posts: 884 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 17	i'd ahve to say it works in the other end of the spectrum also. back in the day i was 6-0' 140...ti just seemed like i wasn't noticed/respected half as much as i am now that i weigh 200. granted, 6-0' 200 is not huge by any means....but compared to your average college guy it's fairly impressive to be that size while staying under 15% bf. i'd assume that half of it is a confidence thing...but i'm definitely getting looks from women who wouldn't have noticed me a few years ago. great work man. it's a total lifestyle change....you feel like a totally different person. it seems like life just opens new doors for you. __________________ Live from Baghdad! Ich bin gross und stark!

09-26-2005, 02:50 PM	#14
Vinter Pro Stature Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Boston Posts: 194 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	I know the situation.. when I wasn't fat... I would go out with some friends and go home with 2-3 phone numbers a night, as I gradually gained weight over the past two years, I noticed it going away little by little, getting ignored by the same people who used to be all about being around me, was kinda weird to me at first, but it let me know who's ya friend and who isnt, you know? Anyways, it took a girl insulting me (the one time an insult has actually bothered me) to get me to change, and I've been working on it for the past month, its rough, but I'm showing progress so I'm happy.. I can't wait to get in better shape then I was before, so when those people come back around, I can give them the cold shoulder back! __________________ 8/15/05 - 232 8/22/05 - 227 8/26/05 - 225 9/2/05 - 224 - 23% bf 9/10/05 - 221 - 21.85% bf 9/19/05 - 220 - 21.4% bf 9/26/05 - 219 - 21% bf 10/3/05 - 217.5 - 20.8% bf 10/10/05 - 218 - 19.6% bf 10/17/05 - 214 - 18.07% bf 10/28/05 - 210 - 17.04% bf http://www.sickofbeingfat.net/profiles.aspx?vinter N'Gorge, Melting Point, Rebound XT Log

09-26-2005, 05:48 PM	#15
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	isn't social reality sad and upsetting? In a way it makes me angry, but in other ways I know that it's mostly on a subconcious level. No one likes "The fat one". I do it myself. In every college class there is "The fat one". __________________ R I P

09-26-2005, 07:04 PM	#16
Vinter Pro Stature Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Boston Posts: 194 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	It is sad and upsetting, but I cant say I'm not guilty of being the person in shape and fit, popular and not caring of the overweight 'loser', I was one of those guys.. I played sports all my life, was always in good shape, I was the 'alternative/freak' jock/athlete.. because I was in shape, was a funny guy, I got into the crowd of assholes, and became one... I'm glad I got fat, even though it sucks, it gave me a different perspective on things, though I cant understand how people take the verbal abuse time and time again and don't do anything about it at some point.. I knew I was letting myself go, and I kept letting it happen (depression, lazyness..etc..etc) but I hit a boiling point when someone threw words at me that I might have said a few years ago, and it made me realize things needed to change.... maybe people just deal with insults better then me o-O __________________ 8/15/05 - 232 8/22/05 - 227 8/26/05 - 225 9/2/05 - 224 - 23% bf 9/10/05 - 221 - 21.85% bf 9/19/05 - 220 - 21.4% bf 9/26/05 - 219 - 21% bf 10/3/05 - 217.5 - 20.8% bf 10/10/05 - 218 - 19.6% bf 10/17/05 - 214 - 18.07% bf 10/28/05 - 210 - 17.04% bf http://www.sickofbeingfat.net/profiles.aspx?vinter N'Gorge, Melting Point, Rebound XT Log

09-26-2005, 07:09 PM	#17
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,205 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	since we're on the subject... the girl who sat behind me in math class today is really REALLY fat, and she sounded like she was breathing ALL the air in the room. I wanted to move my desk cos it was annoying to hear her gasp up air like a dieing hippo for an hour straight... __________________ R I P