Didn't Cum During Sex And Now I Feel Stupid - Page 2

DJohnson · 05-15-2006, 03:57 PM

Sorry, I just read it in the wrong way and wanted to bring your attention to what I thought was too harsh. I was thinking just the same as you: "more than one opinion is allowed around here".

My bad.

Millz · 05-15-2006, 04:03 PM

To be honest, I think it is performance anxiety more than anything.

Its happened to me before, but you get past it. Just relax, keep doing what your doing, but don't think so much about what's NOT happening with oyu, but think about what IS happening to you.

Worst comes to worst, talk with the chick about it. Chances are, shes feeling insurce about the whole thing too, and is more willing to help than you may think.

Just my .02 as well, Durex sucks. Trojan is not any better, but the ultra sensative is OK. DO NOT get the extended pleasure, unless your like your junk being completely numb.

RockyIV · 05-15-2006, 04:08 PM

Don't worry dude, it's probably just the condom that you used. Try switching it up an try to relax. You will be a bit tense your first few times. Also, change positions and good things will happen. Good luck.

JB20 · 05-15-2006, 04:21 PM

:bhim: this is not the bodybuilding.com forums
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...out-my-gf.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...irlfriend.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...e-9-years.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...el-stupid.html

so please stop trying to turn ironmass into it

Lift · 05-15-2006, 04:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JB20

:bhim: this is not the bodybuilding.com forums
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...out-my-gf.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...irlfriend.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...e-9-years.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...el-stupid.html

so please stop trying to turn ironmass into it

...So he has gf issues?? Whats the problem?

My 0.2 Trojan shared pleasure warm sensations are pretty good fun!

readytocommit · 05-15-2006, 05:27 PM

be it bad advice or not, i follow skels rules, please me me me, and i can always get chicks.

although i would say if u really love a chick and wanna make sure she sticks around, follow eme's advice and make sure it pleases her first and she will make sure you get pleased too....cuz it would suck nuts if she was banging other dudes behind ya back

**Fitnfirm** · 05-15-2006, 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JB20

:bhim: this is not the bodybuilding.com forums
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...out-my-gf.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...irlfriend.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...e-9-years.html
http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...el-stupid.html

so please stop trying to turn ironmass into it

Thank you!! JB20

The man with common sense!!!!! and a little investigating skills too

Crobar · 05-15-2006, 06:00 PM

I aint no super pimp but I'll have to go with EME's advice here.

**skelooth** · 05-15-2006, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by EME

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Originally Posted by skelooth

Also, as advice from experience.... don't even consider what it's like for the girl. If you so much as hint that you are trying to make it good for the girl you are DOOMED to always having sex with the goal of pleasing the girl.

- Wow... now that would truly be a fate worse than death....

It is :scared1:

Okay, I admit, any relationship where I put the girl first in the bedroom has lasted for YEARS.... but the sex wasn't fun for me. Okay, girlfriend #1.... very bossy demanding type. Not going down on her during any session was 'unacceptable' behavior.... but wanting to be reciprocated would end up in a huge fight.... Apparently I was not allowed to request it, I had to just shut my mouth and wait for her to surprise me with it four or five times a year...... went out with her 3.5 years... Second girlfriend.... different situation, didn't mind going down on her because she wasn't bossy about it :P and She was a lot more fun.... anyway, she was impossible to get off.... i mean impossible!!!!!!!!!! ARGH!!!! My hands and jaw would hurt SO freakin bad from trying to get her off.... That one lasted about 2.5 years.

Fast forward to now and rewind to all the girls i've been with since. Yes, the relationships have not lasted more than 2 weeks

buy i've gotten exactly what I've wanted in the bedroom. I've reversed the roles and made it their duty to work to make sure I'M happy. That doesn't mean I don't do my share of work, it just means I make it clear from the beginning that I am the king in the bedroom, and we'll be doing what I want to do :king:

The Booger · 05-15-2006, 06:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pumpatron

I think it was the condoms because they were the extra safe one's so they're bound to be a bit thicker.

HK

There's part of your problem. Sometimes it's better safe than sorry. Moving on....

Millz hit the nail on the head. The old saying "first time is the best time" is hardly ever right, this being one of the cases it is VERY wrong. Trust me on that one

Is there anything EME doesn't know? Damn!

**EME** · 05-15-2006, 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skelooth

i've gotten exactly what I've wanted in the bedroom. I've reversed the roles and made it their duty to work to make sure I'M happy.

Well, at least you only make them work for 30 seconds at a time.

- EME

**skelooth** · 05-15-2006, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EME

Well, at least you only make them work for 30 seconds at a time.

- EME

See? It's a win win situation :bigthumbu

I used to last longer than 30 seconds. Then one day I turned 23

**EME** · 05-15-2006, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skelooth

See? It's a win win situation :bigthumbu

I used to last longer than 30 seconds. Then one day I turned 23

pammiejoe6 · 05-15-2006, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EME

haha.....

Oh my.... It would be innapproprate for me to go into personal details about this situation being a married man.. but suffice to say that you have never heard me complaining about woman problems, and I didn't have them before I met my wife either.

It doesn't matter whether it's the girls first time, or whether you have been with her for 15 years. When you make it your goal to make your woman's experience the best that it can be, the benefits will come back to you 10 fold.

When your first goal is "pleasing yourself", that's the way you come across to your woman.

As with most things in life, you get out of them what you put into them.

When your first goal is making your woman happy, she can tell, and her response and reciprocation will definitely make it worth your while.

And who on earth ever said anything about him not enjoying himself. It's a very enjoyable experience to see your woman "enjoying" things. :yes:

Not only that, but when your woman truly "enjoys" the experience, you're not going to have to worry about getting yours...... she'll make sure that you do.

It's alright guys... you're young. You'll figure it out one of these days. :fingersxd

- EME

GREAT POST!

**krzna** · 05-15-2006, 08:14 PM

i have the same problem ... i hv never EVER cum with a condom on.
That said , i ve used a condom like 1ce in my life

... I preferred to wait and take a blood test before i used to do my shit.

If this was the AAS section and if you were over 24 i could have given you a bunch of solutions. Let me just tell you bud, its all in the mind.FOCUS, the pure sexual energy is in your lower spine.

Like trick said, its a lot to do with the position too. If you have tried PE ... there is a good chance you have desensitized your tool to a good extent, which in my opinion is good if you want longer, more prolonged cycles.

But sometimes it gets to a point where the girl is simply in a lot of pain, esp her back and hammies, like after 15-20 minutes and that shit does'nt float my boat, so in the end, I just call it quits.

This is what worked for me, if you play a little to a womans tunes and be considerate to what pleasures her, a little, she'd do anything ... I mean like ANYTHING in bed for you. Just my .02 bud.

On that note, a strong lower back is like superhuman during sex, esp regular missonary. Deadlift hard ... bone harder

.

**DJSTARER** · 05-15-2006, 08:51 PM

Okay... here is my 2 cents:

First off, check our ur diet. Sorry, I had to say it. Make sure you are getting enough saturated fat. I imagine this isn't an issue, but just in case. I know when I eat lots of saturated fat... I'm like a.... i don't even know... F*** fiesta....

Secondly, this can be a good thing that ur not finishing. Lets say you get her off.... she is spent... and you are just sitting there.... YOUR THE MAN. She is indebted to you. Your problem is the exact opposite most guys actually have. She will begin feeling bad about HER ability, and trust me... there are things she can do to fix the situation after she reaches orgasm. Guys are worthless after they cum... they completely loose all sexual desire. Females do, but to a much lesser extend.

I'm not sure what you fine lady is in to, but oral sex, IMO, feels amazing. That is one fix to the problem. Have her yank or suck you off. Not only to you get to make her eyes cross missionary style, you can lay back and enjoy yourself later.

you're a PIMP, pump.

don't forget your multi

**DJSTARER** · 05-15-2006, 08:54 PM

BUMP to EME's most. I come from the exact same school of thought. Nothing gets me off more than seeing my girlfriend (3.5 years :fingersxd ) climax to an uncontrolable orgasm.

05-15-2006, 03:57 PM	#31
DJohnson IMPC Contestant Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 1,095 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 53	Sorry, I just read it in the wrong way and wanted to bring your attention to what I thought was too harsh. I was thinking just the same as you: "more than one opinion is allowed around here". My bad. __________________ Age: 21 Height: 5'10.5" Mar, 2001: 135lbs @ ~14% Nov, 2004: 245lbs @ ~40% Feb, 2006: 188lbs @ 20.1% - Hydrostatic Tested Dec, 2006: 168lbs @ 5.5% - 7 Point Caliper Tested BULKING FOR A LONG TIME NOW Long Term Goal: Over 200lbs @ 8%

05-15-2006, 04:03 PM	#32
Millz Pro Stature Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: NoVa Posts: 109 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	To be honest, I think it is performance anxiety more than anything. Its happened to me before, but you get past it. Just relax, keep doing what your doing, but don't think so much about what's NOT happening with oyu, but think about what IS happening to you. Worst comes to worst, talk with the chick about it. Chances are, shes feeling insurce about the whole thing too, and is more willing to help than you may think. Just my .02 as well, Durex sucks. Trojan is not any better, but the ultra sensative is OK. DO NOT get the extended pleasure, unless your like your junk being completely numb. __________________ Progress has little to do with speed, but much to do with direction. Effort is nothing without intensity.

05-15-2006, 04:08 PM	#33
RockyIV Amateur Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 32 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 0	Don't worry dude, it's probably just the condom that you used. Try switching it up an try to relax. You will be a bit tense your first few times. Also, change positions and good things will happen. Good luck. __________________ "No, maybe I can't win, maybe the only thing I can do is just take everything he's got. But to beat me, he's gonna have to kill me, and to kill me, he's gonna have to have the heart to stand in front of me, and to do that, he's gotta be willing to die himself and I don't know if he's ready to do that. I don't know, I don't know."-Rocky Food Log: http://www.fitday.com/WebFit/PublicJ...l?Owner=Jtiger

05-15-2006, 04:21 PM	#34
JB20 Heavy Metal Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 657 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 41	:bhim: this is not the bodybuilding.com forums http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...out-my-gf.html http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...irlfriend.html http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...e-9-years.html http://www.ironmass.com/forums/misc/...el-stupid.html so please stop trying to turn ironmass into it __________________ http://sonybmg.com/musicbox/video/aliceinchains/

05-15-2006, 06:00 PM	#38
Crobar IMPC Contestant Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: a hop from NYC Posts: 371 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 6	I aint no super pimp but I'll have to go with EME's advice here. __________________ Animal: A hardcore, no-holds-barred bodybuilder. One who is supremely driven, focused and dedicated. The epitomy of what a bodybuilder is all about... Why you're here. NO GUTS NO GLORY Winners are those who make habit out of doing things losers are uncomfortable doing Ultimate Challenge 2006 IMPC: April Pictures IMPC: May Pictures

05-15-2006, 05:27 PM	#36
readytocommit Amateur Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: fl Posts: 59 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 3	be it bad advice or not, i follow skels rules, please me me me, and i can always get chicks. although i would say if u really love a chick and wanna make sure she sticks around, follow eme's advice and make sure it pleases her first and she will make sure you get pleased too....cuz it would suck nuts if she was banging other dudes behind ya back

05-15-2006, 08:14 PM	#45
krzna Dogg Crappin Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Olangapo-Zambales,Philipines Posts: 1,636 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 53	i have the same problem ... i hv never EVER cum with a condom on. That said , i ve used a condom like 1ce in my life ... I preferred to wait and take a blood test before i used to do my shit. If this was the AAS section and if you were over 24 i could have given you a bunch of solutions. Let me just tell you bud, its all in the mind.FOCUS, the pure sexual energy is in your lower spine. Like trick said, its a lot to do with the position too. If you have tried PE ... there is a good chance you have desensitized your tool to a good extent, which in my opinion is good if you want longer, more prolonged cycles. But sometimes it gets to a point where the girl is simply in a lot of pain, esp her back and hammies, like after 15-20 minutes and that shit does'nt float my boat, so in the end, I just call it quits. This is what worked for me, if you play a little to a womans tunes and be considerate to what pleasures her, a little, she'd do anything ... I mean like ANYTHING in bed for you. Just my .02 bud. On that note, a strong lower back is like superhuman during sex, esp regular missonary. Deadlift hard ... bone harder . __________________ *DIET DEDICATION DP** www.surpassgenetics.com www.offshorebodybuilding.com www.thevipboard.com Team Beast Breeder colossus@beastbreeder.com

05-15-2006, 08:51 PM	#46
DJSTARER eating more folate... Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: State College, PA Posts: 4,254 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 119	Okay... here is my 2 cents: First off, check our ur diet. Sorry, I had to say it. Make sure you are getting enough saturated fat. I imagine this isn't an issue, but just in case. I know when I eat lots of saturated fat... I'm like a.... i don't even know... F* fiesta.... Secondly, this can be a good thing that ur not finishing. Lets say you get her off.... she is spent... and you are just sitting there.... YOUR THE MAN. She is indebted to you. Your problem is the exact opposite most guys actually have. She will begin feeling bad about HER ability, and trust me... there are things she can do to fix the situation after she reaches orgasm. Guys are worthless after they cum... they completely loose all sexual desire. Females do, but to a much lesser extend. I'm not sure what you fine lady is in to, but oral sex, IMO, feels amazing. That is one fix to the problem. Have her yank or suck you off. Not only to you get to make her eyes cross missionary style, you can lay back and enjoy yourself later. you're a PIMP, pump. don't forget your multi __________________ My philosophies on training: "Extreme training yields extreme results" "Just because you can, does not mean you should" "The best program is the one you are not doing" Penn State Powerlifting-181 lb weightclass PGA Professional of America** Current Stats: 474 Squat 601 Deadlift 320 Bench Goals for next training cycle: 500lbs squat and a total over 1400 in competition

05-15-2006, 08:54 PM	#47
DJSTARER eating more folate... Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: State College, PA Posts: 4,254 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 119	BUMP to EME's most. I come from the exact same school of thought. Nothing gets me off more than seeing my girlfriend (3.5 years :fingersxd ) climax to an uncontrolable orgasm. __________________ My philosophies on training: "Extreme training yields extreme results" "Just because you can, does not mean you should" "The best program is the one you are not doing" Penn State