Cried Today For The 1st Time In 9 Years!

Pumpatron · 04-17-2006, 01:22 AM

I've known this girl now for about 3 weeks. I first met her in a nightclub with my best friend (she knew him). Well since then I've got her number and MSN contact address and we've been chatting a lot. A few days later we decided to go to the cinema on a date and it went pretty well. Anyway, we spoke a lot more and I went to her house last night and had some drinks. After a while we were sat on the couch talking and she started holding my hand and laid back putting her legs onto mine. I took this as a sign that she likes me and I was really happy. At the end of the night I kissed her on the way out and thought everything was going great.

Come this morning and she signs into MSN Messenger and says "dont take this the wrong way, but i dont really like you in that way, I just want to be friends"... After hearing this I felt so let down, I cried for the first time in 9 years and I felt so pathetic because of it but that's how much of an impact this girl made on me. I know you're all gonna say that I should just move on and find another girl but this one was really special to me. I had feelings for her that I'd NEVER felt before in my life. Even when I was in the middle of a 6 month relationship with an Ex girlfriend I never felt nearly as much for her as I do for this girl. She's on my mind 24/7 and I couldn't even sleep last night because I was thinking about her so much.

I don't know what the hell to do now because I want to be with her so much, it's unbelievable. She's just come out of a very long and serious relationship so maybe that's why she's not ready for another boyfriend yet or something. What do you suggest I do though, stick it out and see if she changes her mind soon? This isn't just another typical slut who I'll have feelings for for a couple nights and then forget about her. To tell you the truth, she means so much to me that I've not even thought about sex with her at all, just being with her is good enough for me.

HK

~~2Ripped4U~~ · 04-17-2006, 01:26 AM

Ha ha, deja vue bro... Main point here she just came out of a relationship, just hang on to something and ride through it and see what happens dude.

**DJSTARER** · 04-17-2006, 01:30 AM

what a *****

girls like doing that, and some guys do too

**skelooth** · 04-17-2006, 01:47 AM

Try to forget her bro... Be glad it came to this now and not later. Girls have done that to me so many times (sometimes going much further, ie sex) just to rip my heart out after a week, or 2, or however long they feel like playing with my emotions. I've learned (unfortunately) to not fall for girls anymore.... cos the majority of them do shit like this bro... I feel your pain though man. She's not worth crying over bro.

Robcardu · 04-17-2006, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Pumpatron

.........To tell you the truth, she means so much to me that I've not even thought about sex with her at all, just being with her is good enough for me.

Stay away from that girl right now man.

METAL VIPER · 04-17-2006, 08:36 PM

Try not to think about it as much bro. You don't want to get one-itus. There's plenty more poon out there, don't let one girl get you down; it's just not worth it.

Millz · 04-17-2006, 09:10 PM

Ignore here.

She's testing you to see if you'll do whatever it takes to make her yours. Play it cool, and make it seem like YOU'RE the one deciding to "just be friends"

**Fitnfirm** · 04-17-2006, 09:37 PM

She is playing a game with you, Ignore her and act like it doesnt bother you, If she really like you she will contact you, Dont be so available when it happens either!!!!! Why would she hold your hand and put her legs on you if she just wanted to be friends, there is more to it than that, freinds dont do that to each other. Hang tight.

**skelooth** · 04-17-2006, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Robcardu

Stay away from that girl right now man.

ROTF

Lift · 04-17-2006, 09:57 PM

Ouch sorry to hear that man, women do these things..they're hard to understand, back off and dont talk to her anymore if shes not interested hanging around her is only going to lead to more tears and heart ache.

DB15 · 04-17-2006, 11:53 PM

hey man good luck with all of that

try to stay positive

**Grunt76** · 04-18-2006, 12:14 AM

When are women going to mature and become real adults.

"You're a good guy. Let's f**k."

~~2Ripped4U~~ · 04-18-2006, 12:19 AM

A little song comes to mind when I think about this:

I hurt myself today
to see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
the only thing that's real
the needle tears a hole
the old familiar sting
try to kill it all away
but I remember everything
what have I become?
my sweetest friend
everyone I know
goes away in the end
and you could have it all
my empire of dirt

I will let you down
I will make you hurt

I wear this crown of thorns
upon my liar's chair
full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
beneath the stains of time
the feelings disappear
you are someone else
I am still right here

what have I become?
my sweetest friend
everyone I know
goes away in the end
and you could have it all
my empire of dirt

I will let you down
I will make you hurt

if I could start again
a million miles away
I would keep myself
I would find a way

So depressing and goth like, right?

SoMdHunter · 04-18-2006, 12:30 AM

Just keep her as a friend and don't cut all ties. She may wise up later and want to rekindle a flame.
In the mean time, go on a pu**y hunt and get laid. You may find afterwards she isn't all you thought she was after all. There is nothing better than a night of good old fashioned hard core *****ing to make a man feel like a man again!

**DJSTARER** · 04-18-2006, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by SoMdHunter

Just keep her as a friend and don't cut all ties. She may wise up later and want to rekindle a flame.
In the mean time, go on a pu**y hunt and get laid. You may find afterwards she isn't all you thought she was after all. There is nothing better than a night of good old fashioned hard core *****ing to make a man feel like a man again!

.....wow

he's right though. Just don't do it immediately before or after a workout!:boink1:

Robcardu · 04-18-2006, 03:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2Ripped4U

A little song comes to mind when I think about this:

I hurt myself today
to see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
the only thing that's real
the needle tears a hole
the old familiar sting
try to kill it all away
but I remember everything
what have I become?
my sweetest friend
everyone I know
goes away in the end
and you could have it all
my empire of dirt

I will let you down
I will make you hurt

I wear this crown of thorns
upon my liar's chair
full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
beneath the stains of time
the feelings disappear
you are someone else
I am still right here

what have I become?
my sweetest friend
everyone I know
goes away in the end
and you could have it all
my empire of dirt

I will let you down
I will make you hurt

if I could start again
a million miles away
I would keep myself
I would find a way

So depressing and goth like, right?

Great song....I love NIN!!!!

**krzna** · 04-18-2006, 08:28 AM

If only u guys knew what I was going thru now ... hmmm

**Trick D** · 04-18-2006, 01:59 PM

I am going through some tough shit too right now. 2 years... It's rough to be talking about marriage and then 3 months later nothing.

A_N_91 · 04-18-2006, 05:28 PM

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04-17-2006, 01:22 AM	#1
Pumpatron Pro Stature Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 161 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	Cried Today For The 1st Time In 9 Years! I've known this girl now for about 3 weeks. I first met her in a nightclub with my best friend (she knew him). Well since then I've got her number and MSN contact address and we've been chatting a lot. A few days later we decided to go to the cinema on a date and it went pretty well. Anyway, we spoke a lot more and I went to her house last night and had some drinks. After a while we were sat on the couch talking and she started holding my hand and laid back putting her legs onto mine. I took this as a sign that she likes me and I was really happy. At the end of the night I kissed her on the way out and thought everything was going great. Come this morning and she signs into MSN Messenger and says "dont take this the wrong way, but i dont really like you in that way, I just want to be friends"... After hearing this I felt so let down, I cried for the first time in 9 years and I felt so pathetic because of it but that's how much of an impact this girl made on me. I know you're all gonna say that I should just move on and find another girl but this one was really special to me. I had feelings for her that I'd NEVER felt before in my life. Even when I was in the middle of a 6 month relationship with an Ex girlfriend I never felt nearly as much for her as I do for this girl. She's on my mind 24/7 and I couldn't even sleep last night because I was thinking about her so much. I don't know what the hell to do now because I want to be with her so much, it's unbelievable. She's just come out of a very long and serious relationship so maybe that's why she's not ready for another boyfriend yet or something. What do you suggest I do though, stick it out and see if she changes her mind soon? This isn't just another typical slut who I'll have feelings for for a couple nights and then forget about her. To tell you the truth, she means so much to me that I've not even thought about sex with her at all, just being with her is good enough for me. HK __________________ Trainee Under Myself! "2 Mice Fell Into A Bucket Of Cream. The 1st Mouse Gave Up Trying To Get Out And Drowned. The 2nd Mouse Was Determined Not To Give In And So Struggled And Struggled For A Good 10 Minutes. All This Struggling Churned The Cream Into Butter Which Allowed The Mouse To Escape From The Bucket" Now Ask Yourself... Which Mouse Are YOU?

04-17-2006, 01:30 AM	#3
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04-17-2006, 01:47 AM	#4
skelooth eh heh heh Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Behind you Posts: 7,200 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 158	Try to forget her bro... Be glad it came to this now and not later. Girls have done that to me so many times (sometimes going much further, ie sex) just to rip my heart out after a week, or 2, or however long they feel like playing with my emotions. I've learned (unfortunately) to not fall for girls anymore.... cos the majority of them do shit like this bro... I feel your pain though man. She's not worth crying over bro. __________________ http://loseover100lbs.com/misc-f7.html

04-17-2006, 08:36 PM	#6
METAL VIPER SEEK & DESTROY Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Huntington Beach, CA Posts: 542 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 46	Try not to think about it as much bro. You don't want to get one-itus. There's plenty more poon out there, don't let one girl get you down; it's just not worth it. __________________ \m/ METALLICA \m/ R.I.P. Cliff Burton:2/10/62-9/26/86 DIE, by my hand, I creep across the land, killing first born man

04-17-2006, 09:10 PM	#7
Millz Pro Stature Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: NoVa Posts: 109 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 4	Ignore here. She's testing you to see if you'll do whatever it takes to make her yours. Play it cool, and make it seem like YOU'RE the one deciding to "just be friends" __________________ Progress has little to do with speed, but much to do with direction. Effort is nothing without intensity.

04-17-2006, 01:26 AM	#2
~~2Ripped4U~~ Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: NY Posts: 1,463 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 0	Ha ha, deja vue bro... Main point here she just came out of a relationship, just hang on to something and ride through it and see what happens dude.

04-17-2006, 09:37 PM	#8
Fitnfirm Spanky Doodle ! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Muscle Land Posts: 1,821 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 47	She is playing a game with you, Ignore her and act like it doesnt bother you, If she really like you she will contact you, Dont be so available when it happens either!!!!! Why would she hold your hand and put her legs on you if she just wanted to be friends, there is more to it than that, freinds dont do that to each other. Hang tight.

04-17-2006, 09:57 PM	#10
Lift I Love IronMass.Com Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 825 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 11	Ouch sorry to hear that man, women do these things..they're hard to understand, back off and dont talk to her anymore if shes not interested hanging around her is only going to lead to more tears and heart ache. __________________ MrLiftALot@hotmail.com "King Kong Ain't Got Sh*t On Me..."

04-17-2006, 11:53 PM	#11
DB15 Pro Stature Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 101 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 5	hey man good luck with all of that try to stay positive

04-18-2006, 12:19 AM	#13
~~2Ripped4U~~ Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: NY Posts: 1,463 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 0	A little song comes to mind when I think about this: I hurt myself today to see if I still feel I focus on the pain the only thing that's real the needle tears a hole the old familiar sting try to kill it all away but I remember everything what have I become? my sweetest friend everyone I know goes away in the end and you could have it all my empire of dirt I will let you down I will make you hurt I wear this crown of thorns upon my liar's chair full of broken thoughts I cannot repair beneath the stains of time the feelings disappear you are someone else I am still right here what have I become? my sweetest friend everyone I know goes away in the end and you could have it all my empire of dirt I will let you down I will make you hurt if I could start again a million miles away I would keep myself I would find a way So depressing and goth like, right?

04-18-2006, 12:30 AM	#14
SoMdHunter Pro Stature Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: In my treestand Posts: 377 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 6	Just keep her as a friend and don't cut all ties. She may wise up later and want to rekindle a flame. In the mean time, go on a puy hunt and get laid. You may find afterwards she isn't all you thought she was after all. There is nothing better than a night of good old fashioned hard core ***ing to make a man feel like a man again! __________________ Vegetarian - ancient Indian term for bad hunter.

04-18-2006, 08:28 AM	#17
krzna Dogg Crappin Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Olangapo-Zambales,Philipines Posts: 1,598 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 49	If only u guys knew what I was going thru now ... hmmm __________________ *DIET DEDICATION DP** www.surpassgenetics.com www.offshorebodybuilding.com www.thevipboard.com Team Beast Breeder colossus@beastbreeder.com

04-18-2006, 05:28 PM	#19
A_N_91 Pro Stature Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 849 Recipes: 0 Rep Power: 11	Quote: